This is the most common situation I work with. Most of my clients come to me knowing very little about the marital estate, and that is not a failure. It is the reality of many long-term marriages where one spouse managed the money. We start at the beginning. I work alongside your attorney to review every account, every asset, and every financial obligation that has been disclosed. If something appears to be missing or undervalued, I flag it for your legal team to address through the discovery process. Both spouses are legally required to fully disclose all assets under penalty of perjury. If something is missing from his disclosure, that is exactly where we focus first.

Common signs include unexplained drops in income, sudden new debts to friends or family, deferred bonuses or salary, business expenses that seem excessive, and assets that appear to have been transferred or sold below market value. As a CDFA® I am trained to review financial disclosures line by line and identify what appears undervalued or inconsistent. If I see red flags, I bring them to your attorney's attention so they can pursue the appropriate legal steps.

California requires community property to be divided equally, but equal on paper is rarely equal in reality. A $500,000 401(k) and a $500,000 Roth IRA look identical on a spreadsheet. After taxes they are not. Taking the house while he keeps the liquid retirement accounts can leave you rich in property but short on liquid assets within 18 months. My job is to model what each proposed settlement actually means for your financial life, not just today but over the next 10 to 20 years, so you can see exactly what you are agreeing to before you sign anything.

Your attorney focuses on the legal structure of your divorce, what the law requires, what you are entitled to, and how to negotiate it. I focus entirely on the financial outcomes, what each settlement option actually means for your cash flow, taxes, retirement security, and long-term financial life. Attorneys typically do not have time to model 10-year financial projections or calculate the after-tax value of every asset on the table. That is exactly what I do. Most California family law attorneys welcome having a CDFA® on their client's side because it makes the process more efficient and produces better financial outcomes for everyone involved.

The earlier the better, ideally before you begin negotiations or mediation. But it is rarely too late. I work with clients at every stage, including women who are reviewing a proposed settlement and want to understand what it actually means before they sign. If you have already signed, I can still help you build a financial plan for your post-divorce life. The one moment where timing is truly critical is when you are about to sign a final settlement agreement. At that point, a few days of financial analysis could be the most valuable investment you make.

Stock options and restricted stock units granted during the marriage are community property in California, even if they have not vested yet. California courts use either the Hug Formula or the Nelson Formula to determine what portion belongs to the marital estate, depending on whether the grants were intended to reward past service or incentivize future performance. For executive spouses in tech and finance, unvested equity can represent hundreds of thousands of dollars that never appears on a bank statement. This is one of the first things I look for in high-asset California divorce cases involving executive compensation.

You can keep it, but whether you should is a different question entirely. Keeping the marital home means taking on the mortgage, property taxes, insurance, and maintenance costs, usually on a single income. It also means giving up other assets to offset the value of the home, often liquid assets or retirement accounts that would serve you better long term. Before deciding, I model the full cost of keeping the house over 5 and 10 years, what you would need to qualify for a refinance in your name alone, and what alternative scenarios might look like. Many women find that a smaller home and more liquid assets puts them in a far stronger financial position going forward.

Clients often reach out when they are deciding:

• Whether to keep or sell the home

• How to divide assets

• What different settlement options may mean

• What their post-divorce financial picture may look like

• How to evaluate long-term financial implications

The common thread is wanting to better understand the financial implications before making important decisions.

Yes. I communicate directly with your attorney, prepare financial analyses for mediation sessions, and help your legal team understand the numbers behind each proposed settlement. I also work with mediators in collaborative divorce settings. Family law attorneys refer clients to me specifically because having a CDFA® on the client's side saves time, reduces conflict, and produces better financial outcomes for everyone involved.

Yes. I work with women navigating high-asset divorce across the country. Divorce financial analysis, settlement modeling, asset identification, and post-divorce planning do not stop at state lines. If you are navigating a complex divorce anywhere in the United States, reach out and we will discuss whether working together makes sense.

A QDRO, or Qualified Domestic Relations Order, is a legal document that directs a retirement plan administrator to divide a retirement account between divorcing spouses. Without one, a retirement account cannot be legally transferred from one spouse to another. If your husband has a 401(k) or pension that is being divided as part of your settlement, a QDRO is required to actually execute that division. Getting this wrong has real consequences: taxes, penalties, and in some cases losing access to funds you were awarded. As a CDFA® working on your behalf, I analyze the retirement assets in your marital estate, help you understand exactly what you are entitled to and what the division will mean for your long-term financial picture, and refer you to a qualified QDRO attorney or specialist to handle the drafting. My job is to make sure the financial terms are right before that document is written, so the QDRO reflects what you actually negotiated.

Collaborative divorce is a process where both spouses agree to resolve their divorce outside of court, working with a team of professionals including attorneys and often a neutral financial expert. It is generally less adversarial and less expensive than litigation. In a standard collaborative process, the financial professional serves both parties as a neutral.